The one I recall the most was the time they really did not want me to play with them. So, they had up'ed the anti by doing more mean things to hurt my feelings, in an effort to cause me to leave. The one that cinched it for me and changed my life forever with them was when they sang the Carole King song "I Feel The Earth Move" at me chasing me home. They changed some of the words in the song to be personal attacks at me, my looks, and my character. To this day, I can listen to that song and be taken immediately to that horrible experience with those girls. Not a great memory.
Some of the things I do to to refocus myself when I hear that song, is to turn it off or change the words to be super powerful and positive words I want to think on.
After that experience, I made a decision to limit my time with them and look for other friends. They did not have the friend qualities I admired or wanted to be influenced or hurt by anymore. I remember entering my sophomore year of high school with a fresh new outlook to make new friends - and that I did.
Now, I can look back and see I was using my walk away power in a very powerful way - choosing me and what was good for me. We all want to be liked and have a sense of belonging. Making these kinds of changes can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself. High school can be a very challenging time for kids.
Recently I was contacted from someone that was in my graduating high school class. Through them trying to remember and put me in their memory of who I hung with, they asked me if I was friends with these same two gals who had bullied me from 5th grade to ninth grade. I choose to say no, and acknowledge that I knew who they were. Sometimes when someone hurts us deeply, we may want to demonize them. I choose not to and just leave my comments about knowing them as minimal. No need to taint her experience or memory with the girls.
It is interesting how these types of experiences can be triggered or re-surface at the most uncanny times. I'm writing a blog on personal safety and bullying. It can be hard to choose the higher road. What do I mean by this? I choose to bless and release, meaning I don't want to demonize them or be a prisoner to that bad experience. To do that means I did not retaliate or gossip about them. When the memory or names come up in my life, I just shoot a quick prayer of blessing on their lives & practice gratitude for how that experience changed me for the better into a stronger person. It seems to have the power to keep me from resentment.
Here is something I'd like to share with you. THINK before you speak! Your words have the power to build others up or tear them down. Your words can leave lasting marks in someones life.
Now, I can look back and see I was using my walk away power in a very powerful way - choosing me and what was good for me. We all want to be liked and have a sense of belonging. Making these kinds of changes can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself. High school can be a very challenging time for kids.
Recently I was contacted from someone that was in my graduating high school class. Through them trying to remember and put me in their memory of who I hung with, they asked me if I was friends with these same two gals who had bullied me from 5th grade to ninth grade. I choose to say no, and acknowledge that I knew who they were. Sometimes when someone hurts us deeply, we may want to demonize them. I choose not to and just leave my comments about knowing them as minimal. No need to taint her experience or memory with the girls.
It is interesting how these types of experiences can be triggered or re-surface at the most uncanny times. I'm writing a blog on personal safety and bullying. It can be hard to choose the higher road. What do I mean by this? I choose to bless and release, meaning I don't want to demonize them or be a prisoner to that bad experience. To do that means I did not retaliate or gossip about them. When the memory or names come up in my life, I just shoot a quick prayer of blessing on their lives & practice gratitude for how that experience changed me for the better into a stronger person. It seems to have the power to keep me from resentment.
Here is something I'd like to share with you. THINK before you speak! Your words have the power to build others up or tear them down. Your words can leave lasting marks in someones life.
T - Is it TRUE
H - It is HELPFUL
I - Is it INSPIRING
N - It is NECESSARY
K - Is it KIND